My Boyfriend puts little effort into turning me on.?

We've been together for 2.5 years, and love each other very much. Lately sex has become boring and we are both becoming frustrated. He thinks that I should be more dominating, an stop looking for soft sensual love. He wants a love animal. I'm working on it. But mean while, he often wants quickies from me. In the shower, in the middle of the day, you name it. I am happy with this, but he does NOTHING to illuminate the moment. He shows no other excitement or desire other then his dick that is standing at attention. He then tries to 'turn me on' buy just sticking it in. There is no passion, no excitement, and when I've told him he needs to turn me on first, he looks bewildered, and tries to give me kisses. How do I get my man to throw me against the wall, or just make my tows curl so that he can achieve his quickies that he is looking for?